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Infertility & Pregnancy Loss

One Year Later: My Stillbirth Story

A hand holding a tiny blue teddy bear.

This day last year was the first of the two worst days of my life. It’s been a year and I thought it might be healing for me and helpful for others to hear my story. Many women share their birth stories. Mine however, is a stillbirth story. It’s a birth story without the happy ending.

July 26, 2019
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Infertility & Pregnancy Loss

July is Bereaved Parents Month | Here are 3 ways you can support the grieving parents in your life

white candle with flame.

Child loss is a horrible experience. It can happen at any age. From during pregnancy to when a child becomes an adult, parents will always grieve the death of their child. Here are some simple ways you can support bereaved parents in your life.

July 2, 2019
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Infertility & Pregnancy Loss

Will I Ever Get To Be a Mother? – The extra pain of pregnancy loss without other living children

a teddy bear sitting alone on a road

Every time a person loses a pregnancy, she loses that child. And when she doesn’t have any living children, she also loses the dream of being a mother.

May 9, 2019
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Infertility & Pregnancy Loss

Finding Moments of Joy in the Midst of Grief

Pink journal that says "today I am grateful" beside a pen and a leafy branch.

My birthday was a helpful reminder for me to look for the little joys in my everyday. Even when my grief gets me down, if I look I can find those good things.

April 10, 2019
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Infertility & Pregnancy Loss

"Do you have kids?" How to Answer After Pregnancy Loss

Do you have kids? How to answer this question after pregnancy loss on trishajennreads.com | Photo of a woman in a white dress standing barefoot on grass,

Less than a month after my son was stillborn, I was asked this question again. And it nearly broke me. My mind went whirling as I tried to quickly and simultaneously figure out what to say and how to not burst into hardcore sobbing.

March 6, 2019
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"At Least You Know You Can Get Pregnant" – Why this consolation is not helpful

A letterboard that says "At Least You Know You Can Get Pregnant" next to a notebook and a black and white dotted pillow on a green blanket.

I’ve heard the consolation “at least you know you can get pregnant” many times. Here’s why it’s not helpful but actually quite hurtful and what to say instead.

February 27, 2019
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A Letter to My Pregnant Friend

Image of a small blue teddy bear next to a letterboard and small book | A Letter to My Pregnant Friend after my pregnancy loss

Since my son’s was stillborn, ten of my friends have announced pregnancies. Many of them have told me that they feel bad that they are pregnant and I’m not, that they feel guilty about how unfair it is that they are getting a baby or another baby before I get a living one. This is my letter to those beautiful mamas.

February 14, 2019
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Infertility & Pregnancy Loss

It's okay to be angry after pregnancy loss

Pregnancy loss is not fair. Your baby died. It’s okay to be angry about that. 

January 16, 2019
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A Letter to Brokenhearted Mamas

Two women sitting in front of a sunset.

You’re a mama, whether or not your baby is on earth or in heaven. This year, I’m choosing hope. Hope for joy, for life, and for the mamas around me.

January 9, 2019
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Infertility & Pregnancy Loss

10 Ways to Honour a Baby Lost in Miscarriage or Stillbirth

Throughout the year, and especially at holidays and significant dates, it can be healing to do something to honour a baby who was lost in a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Here are some ways you can honour a baby lost in miscarriage or stillbirth.

December 24, 2018
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Hello, I’m Trisha

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I’m a reader, a writer, an editor, and a book coach. Through editing and coaching, I help women build their confidence and tell great stories.

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Our family bookshelf wall is coming together! This part of our home office is the new favourite spot in the house.

- My books are finally in a living space instead of in the unfinished basement.

- My reading chair is with the books instead of tucked to the side of the tv in the living room.

- This room is now the coziest place in the house.

All that's left is a little more organization of the books and some decor items to fill in the shelves, add some of Evie's books to the lower shelves, and get a reading lamp.

Do you have a reading nook in your home?

#SundayShelfie #Bookshelf #Bookstagram #ReadingNook #Bookish #BookishHome #Reading
I'm having to consciously remind myself that my TBR is of my own making and that it has no strict schedule.

I have library holds coming in, books that I've purchased or been gifted, ARCs to read for review...and it's getting overwhelming.

As a reader and as someone who has blogged about books and participated in bookstagram, I often feel pressure to do so much: read so much, post so much, review so much, etc., etc., etc.

It's so easy to see what others are doing on social media and compare.

But that's not why I'm here. I'm on Instagram because I enjoy sharing snippets of what I'm reading, writing, editing, and living. I enjoy sharing about my life and seeing snippets of others. This page may be a blend of my life and my business but it's not something I do to get tons of followers or to make money. It's something I do for fun. And if that means my reviews and my posts are sporadic, then that's okay.

Thanks for joining me for today's pep talk.

#Bookstagram #RealTalk #Bookish #Reader #Reading #SelfTalk #TBR
Look what I found while thrifting yesterday? This hardcover is in nearly perfect condition.

The lovely Brenna of @bookmarteneditorial
told me about this book (and series). I had never heard of it but it's her favourite and even inspired her tattoo and her business name.

When a friend loves a book that much you have to read it, right?

So, dear Brenna, I picked this up and intend to read it and then can we have tea so we can talk all about it?

#Bookish #Book #Bookstagram #TBR #ReaderGoals #BookishFriends #UsedBook #ThriftedBooks #Inkheart
Weekend book haul.

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Mother's Day 2022 is the first mother's day in many years in which grief isn't overwhelming any joy for me.

I spent the day with my little family. And now, as my daughter sleeps I'm looking at these photos from when she was 11 days old and marvelling.

How fast these last 7 months have gone. How joyful and challenging and wonderful they have been.

The joy of this girl and the fact that I get to be her mama does not erase the journey it took to get us here. It does not erase the memory of her brother Hudson and all the wonderings of who he might have been had he gotten to live earthside.

Mother's Day will always be like that for me. It will always be a day of joy and grief. Joy and gratefulness for my mother, my mother-in-law, my grandmothers and my daughter. Grief for the three babies that I didn't get raise.

I'm embracing the "and" today as I do everyday. 

Whatever today is for you, I hope that "and" is helpful.

A special thank you to @ashley_daphne for capturing these photos and being so happy to include our Hudson bear in them.

#MothersDay #RainbowBaby #RainbowMama #ParentingAfterLoss #StillbirthMama #MiscarriageMama #GratefulMama #NewbornPhotos
Almost all of my reading lately has been on my Kobo or on my phone. Sadly, neither of these make for great book photos.

I miss posting regularly here. I hope to post more bookish stuff again soon. To do that, I need to plan more and and make taking book photos more of a priority. By that, I mean use the time when Evie naps to take book photos instead of do dishes 😆

I have a bunch of Netgalley approvals so look for book reviews of those books soon. (Here and hopefully on my website again one day).

Mini Book Review: I just finished LIFE'S TOO SHORT by Abby Jimenez and really enjoyed it. I read it partially on my eReader and partially on audio thanks to my library. This book is the third in her "The Friend Zone" series. I read the first two books recently but have to be honest, I don't remember a lot. This book is still fresh in my mind though. I loved the friendship dynamic between the lead characters and the passion for fundraising for ALS research and the development and healing of the family relationships. It's a bit of a slow burn with a lot of questions about if things will turn out okay—but don't you worry, Abby understands the romance genre and the HEA is lovely!

#BookReview #LibraryReads #Ereader #Bookish #Kobo #Reader #Bookstagram
Happy #WorldBookDay friends!

I celebrated by buying myself a birthday month book haul of new books by some of my favourite authors.

I'm stoked to read this stack.

Have you read any of these?

#Bookish #BookStack #ReadRomance #RomanceReads #RomComs #ReadCanadian #BookishCanadian #BookHaul
Remember when I had a book blog? When I was writing my own romance novel? When I was editing other writers' work and training to be a book coach?

I plan to get back to all of that sooner rather than later. I really do.

But right now, I'm focusing on this wee one. I waited a long time for her and battled hard to get to be a mom to a living baby. So I'm taking my time and soaking her in each day. And then, I'm allowing myself to rest and read or binge tv or scroll social media in the evenings. (Because parenting is exhausting, y'all)

Life is a series of phases. Each phase has its own, often unpredictable, length. Sometimes phases overlap with each other and sometimes one or two go on hold for a bit while others take precedence.

Writing and blogging and my editing/coaching business will all be there when this little lady needs a little less of my time and energy. And that's okay.

#Reader #Writer #Editor #MotherDaughter #PregnancyAfterLoss #ParentingAfterLoss #ParentingAftetInfertility #Freelancer #Life #DayByDay
I fell in love with @taliahibbert's writing when I read her Brown Sisters trilogy, so now I'm slowly making my way through her backlist.

I love how her characters are so layered, have rich emotional lives, and are diverse in more ways than just skin colour or sexual orientation (which often seems to be the only kind of diversity people think of). In this book, the heroine is autistic and oh gosh, I love her. She's smart and funny and has such a great voice, both internally in her thoughts and externally in her dialogue.

Do you have any authors that have a backlist calling to you?

#CurrentlyReading #AmReadingRomance #Backlist #Reading #Reader #Kobo #EReader #Bookstagram #BookishMama
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