A Letter to Brokenhearted Mamas
Dear Mama,
Whether or not we have our children here on earth with us. Whether or not we’ve ever had a living child. If we’ve been trying to get pregnant, stay pregnant, or have a live birth, we’re mamas.
I can’t promise you much. I can’t promise that this year will be better than last year. I can’t promise that you’ll get pregnant, stay pregnant or have a live birth. I can’t promise that you’ll get to bring a baby home.
But I can promise hope.
At least, that’s what I’m promising myself.
This new year will be a year of hope.
- Hope that I will survive this grief.
- Hope that I will honour my babies with my life and that I will live the best life I can in memory of them.
- Hope that I will find the joys in all the blessings in my life, no matter how small they are or how often the great cloud of grief tries to block out the bright things surrounding me.
- Hope that I will be a bright thing to those around me, near and far.
- Hope that through my journey, I can bring hope to other mamas.
I invite you to join me.
Join me on this journey of hope. Hope that life can still be full and bright, even while our arms are longing to hold our angel babies. Hope that we will hold those angel babies one day. Hope that our arms will hold earth babies one day too. Hope to find joy while we wait.
Share your stories with me, here in the comments or in an email or on social media. Ask your questions. Vent if you need to.
Mamas, if you need to cry, I’ll cry with you.
And as the tears fall, I’ll continue on hoping for joy to mingle into the mix in this new year.
Love,
Trisha
Tracita Linda
Hi Trisha, as a recent loss mom I’m so sorry that we’ve been both initiated in this shitty club. I have returned to writing to help me through this difficult time (I’m 7 weeks out) and I’ve also scoured the internet reading stories and looking for connections to provide some glimmer of hope that people do survive this hell.
I was wondering if you have dug into literature about Baby loss and if so, if you were going to post about some book recommendations here in the future.
I hope you’re healing and I’ll keep you and your partner in my prayers. I’m glad I found your site.
You’re one brave Mama.
@TracitaLinda
Trisha
Oh, Tracita Linda. I’m so sorry to welcome you to this club. But thank you so much for commenting. I hope my posts are helpful for you to not feel alone.
I haven’t looked into much literature about loss as I mostly read for enjoyment (fiction), but that is a good idea for a post and probably a good idea for my own reading. I’ll start working on it.
Prayers and hope for a bright future of joy.
-T
Valerie
Seven years ago, after three miscarriages, I caught cytomegalovirus in early pregnancy. We found out the baby’s brain was affected and would not develop and decided to have a termination at 22 weeks. I gave birth to a little girl who looked just like her older sister. I thought I would never again experience joy. I was waiting for my life to end. I had a 2 yo to take care of so that kept me going. I still mourn my little girl and the three babies I miscarried. But joy did eventually return. Five years ago we even had a little boy. Sending my thoughts to all you heartbroken patents. .
Trisha
Oh Valerie, my heart breaks for you. So much loss and such a difficult decision. I’m so glad to hear of your joy and you earth babies. Thank you for sharing with me.